Believe it or not, the longest relationship I've had was with someone miles away. It was a long distance relationship. Some say it is impossible for it to work out, but some also say that it is possible, just that it would be a bit difficult. In my case, it was the second. Sure, we are no longer together, but just because we broke up doesn't mean it did not work out.
We were together for about two years. There were many ups and downs just like any other relationship. But I think one advantage long distance relationship has is that, your trust for one another is probably a lot stronger than usual. Why? Because you do not have much choice but to trust each other when you can barely see one another. We would see each other whenever possible. For example, on spring break, she came to visit Montreal with her family. When I visited Toronto during the summer with my family, I then would try to find a way to meet her. Then one time, after my high school graduation, I decided to spend a week with her in Toronto. For roughly two years, this is what we did.
Of course, we would chat every single day, and be on the phone every night. I remember the nights in which we would stay on the phone until we fell asleep. (How childish! lol) But hey, why not. Like they say, Love makes you do crazy things. I did not believe that at first, but I learned as I grew.
Then one day...it was winter. For New Year, I was going to visit my country, The Philippines, with my family. When I told her this, she was very sad. She did not want me to go. She said it would be really tough for her because we would barely have the chance to speak for those three weeks or so. I told her to be strong, that we can get through this since we've been through a lot in those two years that passed. So I did my best to keep her positive and everything, and so far, all went well.
I was finally in the Philippines. I called her as soon as I can to let her know that we got there safe. Everything sounded just fine. However, after about a week, she texts me that she wants to break up. I suddenly go bananas! I hid in a room, gave her a call and tried to talk it out. It was a really complicated conversation. My bill when I got back was more than 200$! Can you believe it, she told me that, one of the reasons she wanted to break up with me was because she sort of liked this guy in this online video game she met! But yeah, after a long talk, it was over. Just like that.
I had a hard time in the upcoming days. Until the moment my cousin introduced me to some of her friends. I do not know if it was because I was still hurting inside, or maybe because she was pretty, but a couple of days later, I started going out with one of her friends. However it did not last too long. Which then leads me to the conclusion that I used her as a rebound. Sigh, I know, how bad of me. But I still did my best to make her happy. I even payed for her school tuition! -_-
I was back in Montreal, Canada. A couple of days later, she (the one from Toronto), called me. She was crying, and was deeply sorry. She wanted us to get back together. However, I was still hurting big time. But I decided to give it a chance. However, this time, it just did not click. We did not last for more than a month. I realized that the scar she left was a bit too much for me to bare.
A year has passed. During those time, we did talk from time to time, but it was rare. She told me that she still cannot get over me. That she still really wanted for us to work. Coincidentally, it was going to be her birthday in a couple of weeks. So she told me, "if you can't give us another chance, can you at least be there for my birthday?" I thought about it seriously, and I decided to do both. I finally arrived in Toronto, and for some reason I was very shy around her for the first couple of hours. As if it was my first time meeting her. But we got along quite well very quickly and became very comfortable with one another. The weekend turned out to be a lot better than I thought, that I thought it was possible for us to start over again.
Until the last night. Her friend slept over. This made me realize that I should not go on with this relationship. What made me realize this? I easily liked her friend. God! I even stood in the room her friend was staying in and just watched her sleep for a couple of minutes...I'm a creep aren't I? Do not worry, that is all I did.
Before leaving for Montreal, we were not sure what kind of relationship we were having, but we decided to leave it at that for the meantime. Eventually, I told her that it can no longer work. And that is how our story ended. But at least we ended our relationship on a positive note. Today, she is actually engaged, and about to get married later this year. I am happy for her. I have learned a lot, and I want to thank her for everything, most importantly for still being a friend up to this day.
There were many other things that has happened and that I learned throughout this relationship. But it would probably take a really long time to write. I just wanted to share this, let people know that, in a relationship, it does not matter where you are, it can work. You simply need to love each other, be willing and of course, you have to trust each other. Sure, there are other factors, but at the moment, these are the important keys I believe that is needed in any kind of relationship.
"Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly and they will show themselves great." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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